The Four Stages of How Men Fall in Love

Three Bad Intentions to Watch Out For

Before understanding how men fall in love, you must know that not all men seek you out to fall in love. Watch out for these three bad intentions:

• The Trophy: Men who seek you out just to show you off to their friends, especially when they don’t know what to do with such a great woman. If a person isn’t at your level, don’t be the one who bends down.
• The Accessory: Men who treat you like an errand runner—seeking you out only for favors, company, or help. Don’t stay where they treat you poorly just because they fit your ideal.
• The Quick Treat: Men who treat you like a casual craving because they know you’ll give them whatever they ask for, disappearing as soon as they get what they want.

If a man isn’t showing true intentions, it’s time to realize: neither is he worth it, nor are you for settling. Here are the four actual stages a man goes through when he is truly falling in love:

1. The Stage of Uncertainty

• In this stage, the man knows he likes you, but he doesn’t yet know what he wants you for—whether it’s just for the short term or to be the mother of his children.
• He will test your boundaries to see how far he can go. Don’t make things easy too quickly. Make your standards clear: “This isn’t a once-a-week thing, it’s a once-in-a-lifetime thing. And if you don’t like it, there’s the door.” Don’t grant access to your life until his intentions are clear.

2. The Stage of Infatuation

• This stage can be summarized in one word: Intensity.
• The man is intense; text messages come morning, afternoon, night, and sometimes early morning. He looks for any excuse to see you daily.
• If a man tells you he doesn’t have time or disappears all day without even saying hello, don’t make the mistake of getting excited. The one who wants to finds a time, and the one who doesn’t finds an excuse. Look for someone with high aspirations who makes you one of them.

3. The Stage of Exclusivity

• At this point, the man knows things are serious and starts letting the world know he will soon leave the single life behind.
• He stops answering certain messages from others, stops liking other women’s posts, and gives you the place you deserve by posting photos of the two of you together.
• Stay with someone who proudly shows you off without fear, knowing that the amazing woman by his side is worth far more than anyone else.

4. The Stage of Making It Official

• When a man is truly in love, he wants you by his side everywhere; your triumphs are his triumphs, and your failures are his failures.
• If a man wants the privileges of a relationship without commitment, or wants to misbehave without being official, set your boundaries straight. A man in love will travel miles just to see you and wants something real. A great woman is not for just any insecure person.