For most men, feeling attracted to a girl is extremely easy and almost instantaneous. It simply takes seeing a pretty girl walk by—perhaps at the gym, school, or work—to suddenly feel the need to talk to her or establish some kind of connection. The real challenge lies in knowing how to approach her and how to make her feel attracted to you as well. There is no magic recipe or foolproof charming phrase; rather, it is a set of activities, qualities, and attitudes you must develop so that she begins to feel interested, falls in love, and connects with you.
1. Learn to Converse
One of the hardest things for many men is approaching a girl to talk, as most think she might get annoyed, be busy, or simply not know what to say. You need to know that the best way to win over a woman is precisely by having a conversation with her. Be genuine from the very beginning, because you want her to fall in love with the person you truly are, not an idea. Therefore, do not try to pretend anything; the more natural you look, the better. That way, she won’t distrust you or think you want to bother her when you approach. Always try to stay calm, maintain a positive attitude, and add a bit of good humor: with that, you have the perfect recipe to approach and talk to her.
2. Give Her Genuine Compliments
Even though you might sometimes avoid giving a compliment out of fear of sounding fake or repetitive, the truth is you cannot ignore the elephant in the room. Women spend many hours, put in a lot of effort, and take time to get dressed up and look pretty and attractive. Ignoring all that effort seems rude, especially if she did it to go out with you. Another very important thing is not to limit compliments solely to her physical beauty: compliment her on her intelligence and personality. This way, she will know you are paying attention to her and taking her seriously, making her feel more comfortable and confident by your side.
3. Make Her Laugh
There is a saying that if you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything. In fact, the easiest way to lower a woman’s guard is precisely by making her laugh. There is an immense variety of articles and studies you can easily find online about the importance of making a woman laugh to win her over. Above all, we must understand this isn’t about being a clown and telling jokes all day, but rather having a good sense of humor, because humor shows you are a sociable and pleasant person—that is attractive. Additionally, you can use humor to test the waters: depending on how she reacts to your joke, you will know if you have a chance with her, if you should change the subject, or if it’s better to look elsewhere.
4. Learn How to Dance
I have to tell you something: this advice is rarely recommended by anyone, but it is extremely effective in making a girl interested in you or at least grabbing her attention. Believe it or not, guys who look quite normal manage to date really attractive girls just because of this. The reason is simple: women love to dance, they love music, and they love moving in a sensual way. So a guy who knows how to dance has much more opportunity than a guy who spends the whole night sitting or standing at a party. You don’t necessarily have to be a professional dancer, but dancing transmits that you are a social, fun, and self-confident man—and women love confident men.
5. Don’t Complicate Your Life
The rules on how to make a woman fall in love are heavily contaminated with myths, like waiting a certain number of days to call or playing hard to get. The only thing completely true is that you shouldn’t scare her off; meaning, don’t be too stubborn, annoying, or bothersome, because that can ruin your chances. You can wait a few days to call her if you want, but you also want her to know you’re interested in going out with her. After you’ve gone out several times or spent the night together, you can call or text her regularly so she feels your affection.
6. Don’t Just Court Her, Attract Her
There are two basic models for approaching a woman: the courtship model and the attraction model. When you court a woman, her natural response is to take, so what you must do is focus on attracting her. Courtship is what you give or offer—jewelry, gifts, flowers, or even cash. Attraction is what you are—your personality, how you communicate, your body language, and your confidence. Courtship faces a challenge, while attraction is the challenge itself. From now on, focus better on attraction and watch how it changes your luck with women.
7. Don’t Seek Her Approval
A very common mistake most men make is seeking a woman’s approval, turning her into the leader and themselves into followers. The worst part is women don’t even want to lead, but men push them there with weak questions and body language because they always seem needy and looking for approval. It is much better for you to hold your course even when you don’t have a concrete direction. You need to show her you love being the captain of your own ship, and she will feel attracted to you because you won’t look needy like most men trying to win her over. Focus on having a life and making your own decisions.
8. The Role of Stability and Money
To win over or make a woman fall in love, the truth is you do need money, but let me clarify this. I don’t mean you need money to buy a girl or give her expensive things like jewelry or cash—that isn’t attraction, and if she stayed, it would only be for convenience. What I mean by needing money is to take her out, like treating her to dinner or an ice cream. Women see this as you treating them well and caring about them, not trying to buy them. Being the one who pays transmits that you are a responsible man with things under control. This helps even if you don’t consider yourself handsome, because women eventually get tired of attractive guys or bad boys who don’t treat them well. Never make money your main attraction, but let it be a motivation to push harder in your career and projects, so that alongside your personality, you can conquer the woman of your dreams.
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