That person who is so difficult to make fall in love is actually like a flower in the desert, yearning for the arrival of the first rains, and you are going to be that rain. Because in the end, when a person is proving so difficult to conquer, it is for one of these two reasons, or a combination of both.
Reason number one: they may simply be out of your league or in a niche that has nothing to do with yours. I talk a lot about leagues and niches, and throughout my work, I teach you how to level up your league and select the best niche—the one where you play with an advantage. But reason number two is that this person probably has armor, a hard shell that is difficult to pierce. Perhaps in their innermost core, they desire to fall in love—they desire it with madness—but precisely because they yearn for it so much, they feel disappointed very easily. Surely they have already felt that frustration, that disappointment, going around saying they don’t believe in love, announcing it with neon signs: “No, I don’t believe in love.” They act as if they don’t believe in love, but deep down, they are wishing for you to pierce that armor. They behave, as I told you, like that desert flower that is drying up, withering away, and needs the water, that rain you are going to bring them.
2. The Secret Technique
And how do you do this? It is very simple. You only have to apply this secret: on the one hand, you have to fall in love—you heard that right—fall in love with what that person loves about themselves; and on the other hand, you have to be a challenge. Let me explain.
Fall in love with what that person loves about themselves. I have told you many times about the hhad—that thing they do, their appearance, what they say, what you both share, or their nogada (what they don’t do, what they don’t pretend to be, what they don’t say, what you don’t share). I have told you about this many times for a very simple reason: you have to become a sommelier of people. The vast majority of people do not know how to see in that person what makes them special, what makes them unique, and much less what they feel proud of, what they would like to be admired for. Surely that person feels an emptiness because they haven’t felt valued, and we all have that narcissistic part that we want valued in us, especially if it’s something that cost us a lot or something we feel very proud of.
As I say, the vast majority of people don’t know how to see it—they won’t see it. They will stick to “how pretty she is” if it’s a girl, and if it’s a guy, they’ll probably only see that he’s famous, successful, or has an sculpted gym body. But they won’t be in their trenches, they won’t be in everything that person has faced, they won’t be in those small details. In all of that, as I tell you, you have to be a sommelier of people. A sommelier is a wine taster who perfectly understands the differences and subtleties between one wine and another. While to me a wine is just a nice wine that tastes good because I don’t know a damn thing about wine, for that expert this wine has a fruity flavor, hints of oak, and so on. That person doesn’t perceive the same thing in wine as the rest of mortals. Well, you have to be like that with them. And when you detect what makes them special, what makes them unique, what makes them unrepeatable, what they feel proud of—or could feel proud of, because perhaps that person hasn’t yet discovered what makes them special and unique, and you go and show it to them—the moral of the story is that when they are with you, they will feel incredible. They will feel special, they will feel unique, they will experience a whole series of emotions they experience with no one else. And guess what? If when they are with you they feel all of that, who do you think they are going to want to spend time with?
3. Love vs. Need
And this is where the second part comes in, because I told you to fall in love, and quickly the vast majority of trapped people—what do they understand when I tell them to fall in love? They understand this: “I am a worm, I crawl, I drool, and I sniff panties.” They think you have to be a pathetic simp, a worm, a crawler, a reptile. And that is not falling in love. I’ve told you this many times: if you are a true Kaizen, you surely already have it injected in your veins. That is needing, and that is the big difference between loving and needing.
That is why our motto is: “I love you, but I don’t need you.” And that is why, to make it clear to them, at the same time you fall in love with that person, you have to be a challenge to them. You don’t have to hand them what they ask for on a silver platter; you don’t have to make it easy. They have to see in you constantly someone they cannot dominate. Why? Because, once again, that person has encountered two types of people. That person has only encountered people who either don’t value them—number one, and therefore feel that emptiness and feel used, and even when that person says they really love them, they only see they are around for something that isn’t what makes them unique and special as a human being, and they could easily be with someone else who also offers that, whether beauty, status, fame, reputation, money, whatever it may be, but not what makes them special and unique as an individual. So they feel that emptiness.
And then they are with that other type of people who say, “No, no, I do value you because you are special, because you blah, blah, blah, blah,” but who don’t really value them—they need them. And precisely because they need them, they are not reliable. Because when you are driven by need, you haven’t chosen. If that person is with you because they need you, because you satisfy a very pressing need—like a junkie, like a junkie who needs his drug and you supply it to him, and that’s it, and they are with you for that, but they could be with another dealer, with someone else who also satisfies that need… if it’s someone from a very low league who is desperate (“Come here, come here, come here!”)… if it’s someone simply in that situation, well, just as they are with you, they could be with another person who satisfies the same need.
4. Summary and Conclusion
Summarizing: that person encounters two types of beings—beings who either don’t value them, or beings who need them, which is equivalent to not valuing them either. That is why you are going to be the exception. That is why you are going to apply this secret, why you are going to be someone who, number one, does value them for what makes them unique—meaning you are capable of falling in love precisely even with what makes them love themselves, or could make them love themselves if they haven’t discovered it and you discover it for them; and number two, you are going to be a challenge.
And thus it will be very clear to them. I insist: you don’t have to explain this; it’s not at a conscious level. If you explain it, you mess it up. This is at an unconscious level; this is sub-communicated, because they have to understand at an unconscious level—at the level of their overwhelming unconsciousness—they have to understand that you are a challenge and therefore you are a high-value person, that it’s not easy, but that even so you have fallen in love with what makes them special and unique. And in this way, you are embodying a dream, a fantasy that in their innermost core they yearn for, especially if they have armor, especially if they don’t want to fall in love, but in their innermost core, I’m telling you, they are desiring it. They are desiring it with all their soul, and you are handing them the fulfillment of that desire on a silver platter, like the genie of the bottle. You are being that rain that finally reaches that little desert flower that was withering away.
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